About

AIAR IT is a bit of fun for domestic squabbles and everyday friction — whose turn it is, the dishwasher, the remote, the weekend plan. You both have a say, then an AI Assisted Referee makes a call you can live with.

What it is for

Small household and friend decisions. The kind of thing that would otherwise drag on in a group chat. Not a court, not counselling, not a school or the police.

What it is not for

Anything serious. Violence, abuse, self-harm, medical or legal decisions, divorce and custody as real-world matters, crime, school discipline with real consequences — those need a person who can actually help. If the referee recognises that kind of ask, it refuses the call.

How a match works

One person starts with a short line about the conflict and invites the other. Each side puts their position. The referee asks a little, then makes a concrete call. Sharing that call on the home page is optional, and only after a confirmation email.

This note was last updated on 7 November 2026. The rules of play are in the terms.